Women’s Health, Passionate Life and Body Balance

On the Top of Huayna Picchu

I have always been a healthy woman. I don’t get sick, I don’t catch flu, I don’t go to doctors. I keep myself active and happy. I enjoy the luxury of regular massages and meditation. And yet, I had to learn my lesson how to listen to my body more and nurture it better. I am a woman over 40.

There were couple of times in my life when my body said: “Enough, I take a break” and I had to literally stop and give my body what it needed. It was always due to enormous amount of stress caused by demanding corporate role or painful relationship break up. When that happened, I knew I had to nurture my body and get in peace with my mind.

Well, and always when I got back to normal, I took my health as for granted again. Till last September.

The last “Stop Time” came out of nowhere. I was feeling happy and simply great! I was dancing a lot, I found new love, felt excited by upcoming trip to Peru and I worked with amazing clients. So I didn’t see or feel any health issue coming.

I started to feel really exhausted. When I realized that even music didn’t turn me on and that I had troubles to make it through my dance lesson, I got it. I was not well! I got to the doctors to find out that I was suffering with severe anemia.  When the doctor said that she has never seen anyone with such low levels of iron and that she was surprised I was actually functioning, I was hit by a wave of panic.  “What am I going to do if I don’t function, how am I going to survive?” Yes, I must admit, I felt fear. And as you can imagine, that didn’t make it better.

My energy levels dropped down to zero, I could hardly walk, my head was spinning constantly. And I wanted to dance at the Australian Dance-O-Rama competition in only three weeks! I had my two dance solos ready to perform! And I wanted to go to Peru in five weeks and to climb Huayna Picchu!

So I decided to take my health into my hands more actively. I went to a friend of mine who is a naturopath and Journey Practitioner. I just wanted to get back to normal, dance, travel and live my life fully again! And I wanted it quickly.

And that’s how I discovered Body Balance for myself.  My sessions showed that my body just wasn’t absorbing nutrients, vitamins and minerals from my food as it should be. I needed some nurturing on a cellular level. I needed to increase my energy. And that’s what Body Balance is giving me.

I learned my lesson. I have to listen to my body, I have to understand what it needs and give to her.

We all have only one body for living our life here on Earth.  Give your body what it needs. Everything is energy. Where is no energy, there is no life. Keep your energy high, keep it flow, use it for anything you are passionate about and enjoy your life.

Check the Body Balance information and see how it can assist you to maintain your health. Let me know if you have any questions and comments. I am happy I have found Body Balance for myself and I am happy that by sharing my experience I can help other women, especially women over 40 to maintain their heath and live happy active lives.

And yes, I competed at the Dance-O-Rama, I danced my solos, I climbed Huayna Picchu and I am back living my life fully. I am a healthy woman again.

I wish you lot of energy for everything you enjoy and love doing!

With love,

Karolina Maya

Can you live your dreams through your children?

Can you live your dream through your child?

Hi ladies, Karolina Maya here.

Can you live your dreams through your children?  One lady asked me this question replying to one of my blogs. I felt tempted to jump straight into the answer but something has stopped me.

What is the answer? ‘Well, it depends.’, was the only honest answer I got at that time.

The question has been on my mind for a while. I guess I need to look at it. And yes, the answer is not easy and black and white. It depends.

It depends on what dream you have and how clear you are about your own accountability for achieving and living them.

I was thinking about examples that would make it easier. So let’s go for this one. If your dream is to provide your children with the best education, it’s OK. You can do everything you can to be able to do that and that makes you feel great if you have achieved it.

But what if your vision of the best education for your child doesn’t fit to their dreams? That’s when the test comes. The dream of being able to provide your child with the best education has been fulfilled for you at the moment you have really been able to open this option as a possibility. That’s when your child’s free choice comes to the play. She may go for it or not.  If not, if her choice is different, how does it make you feel?

Another example may be even easier to understand.  Let say that you wanted to be a dancer and for whatever reason you didn’t follow that dream. Now you want your daughter to be a dancer and you do everything to support her. And she is really good. You do it for her, right? Or not? What’s the real truth?

And one day your daughter comes with news that she hates all the dancing drill, she had been doing it to make you happy and now she knows she wants to become a vet. Bang!

So here is my answer. I believe that we have to respect our children’s natural potentials, personalities and passions and as parents do the best to prepare them to achieve their own dreams.

If we project our dreams and sometimes even our own lost aspirations onto our children and we make them responsible for fulfilling them; it’s not fair to them.

So all together the answer for me is yes, you can live your dream through your children if you keep your dreams to be yours, you don’t expect your kids to be accountable for them and also you let your kids to have their own dreams even if their dreams are far away from yours.

So, do you live your dreams  through your children?

I love to know your thoughts.

Yours, Karolina Maya

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Where Are All the Real Men? Is Chivalry Dead?

Liam Neeson – Real Man & Gentleman

I was on the morning bus to the city yesterday. It was one of those fully packed buses, where people have to stand in the isle as well. Normally I don’t mind to stand in the isle. It’s just about 15 minutes to get to the city and I quite enjoy observing people or just being with my own morning thoughts.

But this time it was different.  The bus driver had one foot on speed, one on break, which made us, standing in the isle, fighting for stability and hanging on anything stable we could.

Yes, you guess it right. There were only women, struggling to stay on their feet, while men occupied all the isle seats. All young and middle-aged men, sitting comfortably on their seats, heads down, most of them playing games on their iPhones.

What a picture! Just imagine that! Men sitting comfortably and playing their morning games, and women above them, trying to not fall down on the isle floor.  Is it a common picture nowadays?

I don’t know where all the real men, the gentlemen are. But it looks like they don’t travel by bus.

Have all the men even noticed that? And if so, what was going on in their heads? I don’t know, that’s their business. I know what was going on in my head.

I reminded myself of times when I was commuting to school. Almost an hour each way, every day. At those times there were manners that were followed. One of the basic rules of the etiquette was to offer a seat to an older person and a woman. And it was followed!

So what happened? What has changed? Have ‘equal gender opportunities’ killed the good manners towards women? I hope not. I still want to be treated as a woman. And for me a real man is a gentleman, well-mannered man. For me chivalry is still something I highly value in men.

If I want something, I should better to ask for it, right? And the truth is that I haven’t.

So next time if situation like this occurs, I will ask the man to be a gentleman. Will see what happens! I will share, I promise!

So ladies, out there, if chivalry is something you want from men, if chivalry is something you value, join me. Start asking for it! And share your experience.

Cheers for now,

Karolina

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Criticism and Judgment or Fun and Joy – Time to Choose

My Solo Routine – Tango

I love dancing! I joined a social dance club about two years ago and I enjoy every moment of dancing ever since.  I like learning new steps and patterns, waltzing on the dance floor with my teacher, letting my body flow with the music; I love the whole package.

And even though I enjoy it so much it can be quite a challenge time to time. I have observed that I feel totally out of my comfort zone when I am dancing in front of the others. Well, there is always someone else on the dance floor or sitting around and that’s all right. What challenges me though is performing in front of the others. Yes, I dance as if nobody’s watching when nobody’s watching but as soon as it becomes formal and I am observed, my knees melt down and my heart beats like crazy; right in my throat.

Why? Why? Why? It’s just dancing! And it’s for fun! I dance for myself only and I don’t really mind what the others think of my dancing! Yes, right; so why am I shaking?

Well, the truth is that whatever I say to my mind doesn’t stop my body shaking.  It reacts instinctively. I want to know why, so I let my feelings to take me back in time. And here it is.

I am back in my early teenage times.  Everything I do is followed by some kind of critical comment. I feel constantly judged. It’s nothing dramatic but it’s there always. Well, in my memories, in my perception, I know. But it’s so real! I still hear the voice, saying in Czech: “No ty máš teda ránu.”  “Nemůžeš se trochu upravit?” “No ty zase vypadáš” or “No tys tomu zase dala”.

It’s my mum’s voice criticizing mostly my appearance. ‘Sorry my dear English speaking ladies. I don’t know how to translate it.’ Well,  maybe you can add some of the critical voices  from your childhood here instead. I am quite certain you have heard some.

Anyway. That’s the past. I am letting go of that now. I am glad I am aware of what’s been holding me back. I am choosing to change it and do it now. ‘Mum, I forgive you, I am sorry, thank you and I love you. I know you didn’t mean it.It’s just the way you were.’

I am letting go of all the criticism and judgment. I am choosing fun and joy. I am choosing to dance as if nobody’s watching even if they are watching!

I know I am not alone in this. Hey ladies, do you let fear of criticism and judgment  stopping you from having fun and joy? Feel free to share.

With love,

Karolina Maya

Who Am I? – My Journey to Discover Self

Childlike Innocent Curiosity

It is great to be a woman. It is great to be a woman over 40. I find it awesome!

For the first time ever I feel I can really, truly and honestly be myself. Just be me, my real self! For the first time ever I feel free from any obligation to anyone else. I don’t need to fulfill anybody’s expectations from me, I don’t need to fit to anyone’s else beliefs of who I should or shouldn’t be, what I should or shouldn’t do and what I should or shouldn’t have. And of course I don’t even need to look like someone else wants me to look! (I wonder why my mum came into my mind when I think about this one? Oh well, Thanks mum!)

I had lived for too long time with unconscious obligation to be someone else. To replace someone who was lost too soon. For all that time I was fighting against it not even knowing what I was fighting against. Now I know the cause and I stopped fighting. I made a choice to go within and explore who I really am.

I really enjoy my inner journey to self discovery. Who Am I? I ask the question often and I wait for the answer openly.

Who Am I? “Curiosity” was the first answer I got. “An Innocent Curiosity”, said the voice again.

Wow! I am a curiosity! That’s awesome!

My mind goes back in time. Yes, I always was a curious child; I remember that. But I lost it somewhere!

The next memory that shows up in my mind is the voice saying: “Don’t be curious, you will get old too quickly!”
Well, it doesn’t make any sense to me now but it is quite a common saying, actually, a rhyme, in my own language and someone was saying that to me quite often. “Nebud zvedava, budes brzy stara!” Oh, it sounds scary for a child! Of course, it did sound scary to me as a child. I didn’t want to get old too soon! If curiosity makes me to get old, I better won’t be! Logic, isn’t it? And so as a child, I have shut down my natural curiosity, the natural flow of my source.

Who was it? Who was saying that to me? I hear the voice so clearly but I can’t recall whose voice is it.

It doesn’t matter anymore. I did get the learning that I needed. My core essence is an innocent curiosity and it is still there. It is still the natural Me even though I thought I lost it on the way. And it’s great! Childlike innocent curiosity, wow, I like it!

Oh gosh! I am so happy that I know now!

So I celebrate my curious nature, I embrace my curiosity as a life force, as a core of everything I am and everything I do.

I am an innocent curiosity, I am a seeker, I am an open minded being, I am courage, I am a wonder, I am a traveller, I am a student of life, I like to explore new things, places, knowledge, I like mysteries, I am curious!

Who Are You, amazing, wonderful, ladies?

With my heart wide open,

Karolina Maya

My Moments of Bliss

Kissed by a seal

I had my regular dance lesson yesterday. I always enjoy my dance lessons but yesterday, something special happened. I felt a moment of pure bliss.

We were practicing samba. There was nobody else on the floor, just me and my teacher. One of the normal lessons and yet, there was a moment when everything came together in amazing profound feeling of bliss. I felt so connected with my own heart through the movement and music that I felt pure love and joy and bliss. It burst into my heart as an injection of ecstatic and yet peaceful energy and warmth. And it felt awesome!

This is it. These are the moments of the truth. These are the moments I feel connected with who I really am. This is why I dance!

I felt very grateful for the moment so I went back in my mind and asked myself:

When did I feel like that before? And I made my list of bliss.

When I watched sleeping angelic faces of my baby boys – and there was pure love

When I saw Maurice Bejart ballet dancing Maurice Ravel’s Bolero – and there was a sense of inner flow with the music and movement

When I first felt a  sense of liberation and freedom during the Velvet Revolution – and there was a faith in free future

When I watched Humpback whales jumping and playing in the ocean – and there was pure joy

When a seal looked into my eyes while swimming together in the pool – and there was a deep connection

When the view of Machu Picchu opened in front of me for the first time and my heart burst into tears – and there was awakening

When I let my body floating in Amazon River with pink dolphins around – and there was stillness and peace

When I listen to Dvorak’s Largo from From the New World symphony – and there is grace

and much more…

When do You feel bliss and are you aware of it? You are welcome to share. I will love to hear from you.

With love

Karolina Maya

Hey Ladies, Feeling is Good!

Water Ceremony – Temple of the Water – Peru

Hi there, gorgeous ladies over 40. How are you feeling?

Let’s have a chat. I would love to share my thoughts with you and know your opinion. So, have a break, sit down and relax. It’s time to connect. It’s time to connect with Your Self.

How are you feeling in your body? Calm, happy, joyous, and peaceful? Or do you feel the stress of busy, busy, busyness? Well, it even may be that you do not feel anything at all right now. It can be that your mind is so full of different sorts of thoughts that you forgot how the feeling actually feels. OK. That happens. It’s good to be aware of it. Just take a deep breath and relax.

I want to talk about feeling wise.  That’s how I feel today.  Yes, I am feeling wise and I didn’t even know it was a feeling before! It did’n make too much sense first and so the curious me decided to explore it more.

Am I wise? Am I a wise woman? I say it loudly: “I am a wise woman!“ Well, honestly, I feel quite mixed emotions saying that loudly to myself.  And yet, somewhere deep within I am sure that I have gathered wisdom that I am here to share. And yet, that critical voice in my head says ironically ‘yeh, sure, who do you think you are?’ And my real mind goes: “Where did I hear that before?“ “Who used to say that to me?” Yes, there is a doubt in me if I can dare to say  ‘I am wise’. There is even a shame of all the moments in my life when I did not behave wise at all! And yes, there were quite a lot of them! Oh dear! And yes, fear of others people’s judgment showed up as well. What will they think about me?

And yet, deep inside I know I carry wisdom. Wisdom of all my women ancestors and of course my own wisdom that was born in my own tears and laughter, pain and ecstasy, falls and rises, fear and love.

I don’t know who’s voice was it in my head. Who was the one who did not believe in me? I don’t know. I didn’t get the answer. And it does not matter anymore. I know now that it was not me. I only allowed someone’s else belief to limit my life till now. Not anymore. I am choosing to connect with my wisdom within.

Yes, I am a wise women and I dare to say it!

And you, my dear sister in womanhood, you are a wise woman too! Connect with your wisdom and embrace it.

I am grateful for my feeling and for what they communicate to me. Yes, feeling is good!

What did your feeling show you lately? What did you learn about yourself from your feeling? Share. Inspire. Encourage.

Karolina Maya – Career Alchemy for Women

 

 

What’s on Your Bucket List, Ladies?

Wow, what a wonderful Sunday it was!  Not only that it was beautiful warm sunny day at the end of the winter here in Australia but it was my first  ‘official’ bucket list day as well. Yey!

Two months ago I met with some other ladies at the “Bliss workshop”. With two of them we decided to meet once a month and have a ‘ladies day of bliss’! We just wanted to get together once a month and do whatever makes us happy. We started by just having brunch, chatting, laughing. As you see, just normal “girls” stuff. Last time we met the idea to create our bucket list was born.

Let’s do together the things that we always wanted to do but… didn’t have someone to go with us, didn’t have courage to do them, felt embarrassed for even wanting to do them,…you name all the reasons why we didn’t simply do things we would love to do.

And so we created a bucket list. It was surprisingly  easy to put together a list of activities we want to try, explore, experience and enjoy! In five minutes we had ideas for two years ahead! And it felt awesome!

For couple of last years I have dreams of me figure skating. I mean real night dreams. And I am an amazing figure skater in my dreams, you can bet on that! I have no clue why I have these dreams and what might that mean but I feel soooo good in them that I decided to check it out in the real life and put ice skating into my bucket list.

And here we are, ice skating in Sydney! Not many adults here and just few of them my age, probably no other woman over 40 as me. It’s more about kids, this place. It’s the right place for us to be!

We have so much fun! Just that special cold smell of the ice, fresh breeze on our cheeks; gosh, what an amazing feeling! I feel the same free spontaneous excitement as if I am skiing or dancing. I feel really high and at my place! It feels so good to connect with the child like joy inside  and just purely enjoy the moment.

I am not exactly a figure skater in the real world, with no surprise, but that doesn’t change anything on my awesome feelings, joy and excitement of doing something special for myself. And I am going to take some private lessons, well, just in case the amazing figure skater in me just needs to wake up. Let’s find out!

All right, what’s next? There are lot’s of other exciting things on our bucket list: kayaking, pole dancing, ballet class, painting class, pottery, …..

Life is great! What’s on your bucket list? Common ladies, find your Self and enjoy it!

Let me know,

Karolina Maya

 

Peruvian Despacho Ceremony, Pachamama and My Book

Despacho ceremony in Sydney? Of course I am there!

I feel blessed I could have experienced this ancient Peruvian ceremony twice in Peru. During despacho ceremony, the shamans use rice, shells, lentils, red and white flowers, feathers, candies, grains, seeds and more to create a beautiful mandala as an offering to Pachamama, Mother Earth and Apus, the Mountain spirit. While creating the mandala, shamans prey for love, wisdom, joy, health, balance in our lives. All participants of the ceremony get three coca leaves, blow their prayers into them and add them to the offering.  When the mandala is completed, it is folded into a bundle and finally ceremonially burned.

Both times I experienced this ceremony in Peru, I felt very touched by the ancient wisdom,  that is powerfully simple. The energy of the ceremony was magic!

So here I am, in Sydney, going to Peruvian Despacho Ceremony. August 1st is the beginning of the year of Pachamama. The year of Mother Earth. It is the time to embrace feminine aspect in us. To connect with what is feminine, caring, cooperative, nurturing, loving. In all of us. Yes, even in you, guys!

The ceremony is beautiful, gentle, very feminine, same as Carmen, the Peruvian girl who is leading it. I simply love it again.

So what does have my book to do with it? Well, here is the story. My book “Peru, My Dream, My Love” is  sitting in Buddha laps in Be Still & Chill centre in Balgowlah. One day Carmen comes in. She wants to find a space for her healing and shamanic work. My heart that I’ve put into the book talked to her heart and so she knew she found the place. And so here I am, enjoying Peruvian Despacho ceremony in Sydney. And it makes me feel awesome!

Enjoy a year of Pachamama,

Karolina Maya

 

 

 

Love Your Name and Why is it So Important?

Love Your Name and Why is it So Important

I changed my name. Yes, Karolina Maya is a name I choose for myself just two months ago and I like it. I feel deeply connected with my name now. I feel the energy of my new name and I feel it’s really me.

Everything is energy. And that’s the truth for names as well.

I never felt connected with my previous name and I did not know why. There is nothing wrong with the name itself. I quite like it on someone else; not on me though.  But because I did not know anything else, I did not pay too much attention to these feelings. It just was what it was.

I’ve come across information about the importance of our names in the past. My natural curiosity led me to read books about meanings of our names, numerology of names and so on. It was always interesting but it never passed that line of being just an interesting topic for me. Until two months ago.

The week of my birthday I started to get strong messages to rebirth and to let go of my name. I did not understand for a while but decided to trust and follow my intuition and my subconscious mind.

And then I got it. Suddenly many things from the past started to make sense. Our family tragic story came to the surface. All dots got connected and I got the full picture.

I knew I was named after my dad’s brother who died in an accident in the military service when he was just 19. I knew I was born within a year after that happened. What I did not know was the powerful Vow that my dad made my mum to keep and name the first child after his dead brother. And the child was Me.

Now I understand that this family tragedy has never been healed. Now I understand why nobody ever spoke about my late uncle, why my dad could not stand any emotions, why he shut his emotions down. Now I understand why I leant so quickly not to cry in front of him and shut my own emotions down.

And more than everything else; now I understand why I always felt the urge to fight for the right to be me. Somewhere deep inside me was the deal that I was born with. The deal to replace someone. That deal took me away from my birth right to be me.

And so I let go of all the old attachments that I had because of that name. From now on I am me.

The learning that I want to share is the importance of the name. Yes, name is energy. Be sure that your name resonates with your soul and support you in what your heart is calling you to do. If it does not, feel free to make your own choice. Let go of the old and chose what is right for you. Do it for yourself!

Love your name! If you love your name, you love yourself. The choice is yours. Love yourself!

Karolina Maya