Dolphins, My Dreams and My Soul

Dolphins & Time Travel

Dolphins & Time Travel

Woohoo! I am going to Hawaii to swim with dolphins and to learn their magic from them. “Dolphins and Time Travel”. I am so excited. My dream of dreams comes true.

Let me tell you about my dream. I know that a lot of people love dolphins and that swimming with them is a dream of many. Many people plan swimming with dolphins as their holiday’s entertainment. That is not my case.

When I very was little I used to have real night dreams where I was swimming with dolphins. I was part of their horde. I was swimming and playing with them. I still remember the feeling in my body when I remind myself of that dream. It feels like slow dancing under water. It was gracious, smooth, gentle, sensual and joyous.

I don’t remember who I was really. I don’t recall what my body was like. But I know that I was swimming there together with my dear dolphins as long as I wanted. How was I breathing? I have no clue. I felt safe. It was as night dream magic for me. I still have a sense of some deep wisdom and knowing that I had at that time and that I have forgotten.

Well, it was just a dream, you may say. Sure it was. But hey, I was a girl growing up in the heart of Europe! No ocean in my country, of course. I didn’t have any concept of an ocean for a long time. And did I know about animals called dolphins? At the time of these dreams, not. I saw my first dolphin in the Flipper movie when I was already a schoolgirl.  And by that time I didn’t remember my dreams anymore. As I was growing up this dream with dolphins stopped showing up and I forgot.

But I never stopped loving dolphins. I always felt an amazing connection with them.  I was already 30 when I saw real alive dolphins when I went with my boys to Croatia.  One day we went on a boat trip to an island. And there they were. Dolphins came to play with the waves and excitement and joy filled hearts of everyone on the boat. My heart was jumping from love and joy.

Then I moved to Australia. Only here I started to open to my spiritual part and listen to my soul. The power and spirit of the ocean returned my old memories and childhood dreams to me. My dolphins came back to me and started to call me. I knew I have to join them in their space. But how?  The commercial ‘swimming with dolphins’ entertainment is not for me; I know that.

And then I found it. Following clues I found a beautiful mermaid like woman Joan Ocean and I knew I was home. I found what I needed. I found a woman who lives with dolphins. She loves them, communicates with them, she learns from them. And I want to learn what dolphins have to teach me as well. I am following their calling and my dream. I am going to Hawaii to finally swim with my beloved dolphins as in my childhood dreams. I feel that it’s my soul calling me there to finally connect with who I really am. Maybe a mermaid? Will see.

With love,

Karolina Maya

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How I Learned to Dream Again

Daydreaming

Daydreaming

I believe in dreams. I believe in their power. They are an inspiration; they serve me as a source of energy when I feel down. They show me a direction when I feel lost. They make me connect with the future, past and present at once. I believe in dreams as they are born from our heart.

Some years ago I did attend a workshop, facilitated by Matt Omo, It  was designed to help us  find our inner artist. It was a time in my life when I felt stuck. I felt a bit trapped in the way I was living my life and I knew I wanted a change. I just didn’t know what that change should look like. I didn’t know what I was searching for but I believed that by finding my inner artist and by tapping into my creativity I find my real self and a higher meaning of life.

One day Matt asked us to go back into our early childhood and remind self of what we wanted to be as children. What were our childhood ‘When I grow up I want to be …’ dreams? I listened to all the other people in the class coming with their amazingly beautiful dreams of being a rock star, ballerina, writer, doctor, singer, mermaid, pilot, … , the list went on and on. I felt the energy in the room while people were shouting their childhood dreams one over the other.

I had nothing. No childhood dream at all. My mind was blank. I was not able to recall anything at all! And it made me feel sad. How comes that I didn’t have any dream as a child?  I was trying hard to remind myself, but… nothing.

‘You were avoiding disappointment.’ – my subconscious mind spoke to me.  ‘What?’ ‘Well, why would you have a dream if you knew it couldn’t come true?’ ‘Don’t you remember that time? Don’t you remember that personal wish, aspirations, plans and  dreams of any sort, didn’t matter?’

I got it.  I have somehow, not knowingly, on a subconscious level, accepted a self defence strategy. Based on the commonly shared experience of the whole generation of my parents I have accepted a belief that made a strangely logic sense. Having dreams means being disappointed and hurt and therefore it’s better not to have any.

Yes, I was growing up in a country where people at the time of my parents didn’t have any choice of what they were going to be or where they were going to live. The whole generation of my parents was often told by the rulers of the country what their lives were going to be. No choices, no dreams. The planned socialistic economy needed them. They served as servants to the state with very limited personal choice.

Suddenly I saw myself growing up within that concept. Now I understand why I never knew what I wanted to be. No dreams, no expectations, no disappointment, no hurt.

I lived in a planned economy; planned society with no personal plans at all. What a mechanical life I lived! I lived from day to day, year by year as everybody else for many years.

And then, 20 years later I was sitting at the workshop trying to remember what I wanted to be as a child. I felt as if I got stolen the birthright to dream! I shared my realization with the class, crying.  I came to the class to connect with my childhood dreams just to find out that I was robbed!

“Who said that you couldn’t start dreaming now? Start to dream now!” I heard Matt, saying. “Just listen to your heart, what it wants now.”

Yes, it’s that simple!

Even though we were quite often hurt as children, not being understood for our dreams: even though that we were even not allowed to dream, we can still live our dreams now! Some of us didn’t have any dreams, some of us were stopped, were not trusted, not supported, not understood, judged, ridiculed, you name it! Whatever the circumstance was, the time for living our dreams is now!

I believe in dreams. I am grateful for this realization, I am grateful for the experience. I now know the value of my dreams. And I learned to dream again.

What was your childhood dream, do you remember? Do you live your dream life now?

Leave your comment to share your dream experience.

Karolina Maya

 

 

Can you live your dreams through your children?

Can you live your dream through your child?

Hi ladies, Karolina Maya here.

Can you live your dreams through your children?  One lady asked me this question replying to one of my blogs. I felt tempted to jump straight into the answer but something has stopped me.

What is the answer? ‘Well, it depends.’, was the only honest answer I got at that time.

The question has been on my mind for a while. I guess I need to look at it. And yes, the answer is not easy and black and white. It depends.

It depends on what dream you have and how clear you are about your own accountability for achieving and living them.

I was thinking about examples that would make it easier. So let’s go for this one. If your dream is to provide your children with the best education, it’s OK. You can do everything you can to be able to do that and that makes you feel great if you have achieved it.

But what if your vision of the best education for your child doesn’t fit to their dreams? That’s when the test comes. The dream of being able to provide your child with the best education has been fulfilled for you at the moment you have really been able to open this option as a possibility. That’s when your child’s free choice comes to the play. She may go for it or not.  If not, if her choice is different, how does it make you feel?

Another example may be even easier to understand.  Let say that you wanted to be a dancer and for whatever reason you didn’t follow that dream. Now you want your daughter to be a dancer and you do everything to support her. And she is really good. You do it for her, right? Or not? What’s the real truth?

And one day your daughter comes with news that she hates all the dancing drill, she had been doing it to make you happy and now she knows she wants to become a vet. Bang!

So here is my answer. I believe that we have to respect our children’s natural potentials, personalities and passions and as parents do the best to prepare them to achieve their own dreams.

If we project our dreams and sometimes even our own lost aspirations onto our children and we make them responsible for fulfilling them; it’s not fair to them.

So all together the answer for me is yes, you can live your dream through your children if you keep your dreams to be yours, you don’t expect your kids to be accountable for them and also you let your kids to have their own dreams even if their dreams are far away from yours.

So, do you live your dreams  through your children?

I love to know your thoughts.

Yours, Karolina Maya

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