Hey Ladies, Feeling is Good!

Water Ceremony – Temple of the Water – Peru

Hi there, gorgeous ladies over 40. How are you feeling?

Let’s have a chat. I would love to share my thoughts with you and know your opinion. So, have a break, sit down and relax. It’s time to connect. It’s time to connect with Your Self.

How are you feeling in your body? Calm, happy, joyous, and peaceful? Or do you feel the stress of busy, busy, busyness? Well, it even may be that you do not feel anything at all right now. It can be that your mind is so full of different sorts of thoughts that you forgot how the feeling actually feels. OK. That happens. It’s good to be aware of it. Just take a deep breath and relax.

I want to talk about feeling wise.  That’s how I feel today.  Yes, I am feeling wise and I didn’t even know it was a feeling before! It did’n make too much sense first and so the curious me decided to explore it more.

Am I wise? Am I a wise woman? I say it loudly: “I am a wise woman!“ Well, honestly, I feel quite mixed emotions saying that loudly to myself.  And yet, somewhere deep within I am sure that I have gathered wisdom that I am here to share. And yet, that critical voice in my head says ironically ‘yeh, sure, who do you think you are?’ And my real mind goes: “Where did I hear that before?“ “Who used to say that to me?” Yes, there is a doubt in me if I can dare to say  ‘I am wise’. There is even a shame of all the moments in my life when I did not behave wise at all! And yes, there were quite a lot of them! Oh dear! And yes, fear of others people’s judgment showed up as well. What will they think about me?

And yet, deep inside I know I carry wisdom. Wisdom of all my women ancestors and of course my own wisdom that was born in my own tears and laughter, pain and ecstasy, falls and rises, fear and love.

I don’t know who’s voice was it in my head. Who was the one who did not believe in me? I don’t know. I didn’t get the answer. And it does not matter anymore. I know now that it was not me. I only allowed someone’s else belief to limit my life till now. Not anymore. I am choosing to connect with my wisdom within.

Yes, I am a wise women and I dare to say it!

And you, my dear sister in womanhood, you are a wise woman too! Connect with your wisdom and embrace it.

I am grateful for my feeling and for what they communicate to me. Yes, feeling is good!

What did your feeling show you lately? What did you learn about yourself from your feeling? Share. Inspire. Encourage.

Karolina Maya – Career Alchemy for Women

 

 

What’s on Your Bucket List, Ladies?

Wow, what a wonderful Sunday it was!  Not only that it was beautiful warm sunny day at the end of the winter here in Australia but it was my first  ‘official’ bucket list day as well. Yey!

Two months ago I met with some other ladies at the “Bliss workshop”. With two of them we decided to meet once a month and have a ‘ladies day of bliss’! We just wanted to get together once a month and do whatever makes us happy. We started by just having brunch, chatting, laughing. As you see, just normal “girls” stuff. Last time we met the idea to create our bucket list was born.

Let’s do together the things that we always wanted to do but… didn’t have someone to go with us, didn’t have courage to do them, felt embarrassed for even wanting to do them,…you name all the reasons why we didn’t simply do things we would love to do.

And so we created a bucket list. It was surprisingly  easy to put together a list of activities we want to try, explore, experience and enjoy! In five minutes we had ideas for two years ahead! And it felt awesome!

For couple of last years I have dreams of me figure skating. I mean real night dreams. And I am an amazing figure skater in my dreams, you can bet on that! I have no clue why I have these dreams and what might that mean but I feel soooo good in them that I decided to check it out in the real life and put ice skating into my bucket list.

And here we are, ice skating in Sydney! Not many adults here and just few of them my age, probably no other woman over 40 as me. It’s more about kids, this place. It’s the right place for us to be!

We have so much fun! Just that special cold smell of the ice, fresh breeze on our cheeks; gosh, what an amazing feeling! I feel the same free spontaneous excitement as if I am skiing or dancing. I feel really high and at my place! It feels so good to connect with the child like joy inside  and just purely enjoy the moment.

I am not exactly a figure skater in the real world, with no surprise, but that doesn’t change anything on my awesome feelings, joy and excitement of doing something special for myself. And I am going to take some private lessons, well, just in case the amazing figure skater in me just needs to wake up. Let’s find out!

All right, what’s next? There are lot’s of other exciting things on our bucket list: kayaking, pole dancing, ballet class, painting class, pottery, …..

Life is great! What’s on your bucket list? Common ladies, find your Self and enjoy it!

Let me know,

Karolina Maya

 

How I Made My Best Decisions – Sharing with Women over 40

Karolina Maya

It’s such a beautiful day today. Sitting on the ferry I enjoy the warm sunny winter day. It’s one of those lovely days when everything seems to be brighter. It’s easy to feel happiness of life just for life itself.

I am on my way home from a meeting I had in the city.  It was with a consultant I cooperated with back in my corporate days. Meeting him reminded me of who I was and how I lived back then. Just for a moment I had that flash back. It was enough to remind myself of my successful corporate career, my professional growth from very humble beginnings to an international position as well as of my challenges at that time. It was just enough to realize how grateful I am for everything that life has put in front of me.

It reminded me of the most important decisions I made in my career life.

It is interesting how our mind works. All of what I am writing about now, all these thoughts appeared in my mind in just a fraction of a second. And now I need the whole page to express them. Amazing, but that’s a mind food for another time.

But back to my thoughts about my life decisions. I do not regret any decisions I made in my life. But I realized that none of the best decisions I made were actually based on “thought through” decision making process. All of the decisions that I count as blessings now, were simply made by my heart. I am sure about it.  All of them took me on an amazing journey to self discovery and personal growth. Looking back at them I know that they led me to something that meant to happen. Of course I can’t compare my life after these decisions with what my life would have been without them.

My point is that everything what I decided for because I really wanted it from the bottom of my heart worked out really well. If it was my decision to apply for a General Manager role or the decision to accept the offer to move to Australia, to name just some examples. Looking back I can see all the potential risks and reasons why not to do that. Yes, it was risky and scary as well. But I did not feel the risk at that time. I just knew I wanted it and I was relaxed about the outcome. At the time of such decisions I did not know how am I going to make it at all. I was not comparing options, writing down pro’s and con’s, nothing like that. I just knew that they were the right decisions to make.

On the other hand I remember those decisions that I made because they were somehow expected from me. Looking back I am absolutely certain that I felt that it was not right what I was moving into and yet I followed that “should” command in my head. And you can guess the results! How common is that! One example can be my second marriage. Yes, I am totally honest here and open with you.  I knew I did not want to do that step and yet, I did. I did not listen to my heart and followed other people’s expectations. Oh Gosh! What a life lesson!

So my learning from my own life is this:

Listen to your heart and go with what it saysLet your heart decide what you want and then let your mind think about how to make it happen. Don’t allow the others to shake your decisions with their Whys.

Stay confident with your decisions that were made by your heart. If someone asks you “Why you want it?”  The answer “I want it because I want it.” is good enough. You do not need to justify anything to anyone. Let your heart lead you and let your mind support you on the way.

II believe that this applies in everything in life, including professional professional career. I am passionate about my own career and I am passionate about helping other women in achieving whatever careers they want.

If you want to know more about me and how I support women in their careers as well as in personal life, visit my professional website. I will be happy to share more.

Karolina Maya 

 

 

Freedom and Travel – Inspiration for Women Over 40

Living my dream – Machu Picchu 2011

Hello gorgeous beautiful women,

It’s Karolina Maya here. Today I want to share some thoughts on Freedom and ma passion for Travel.

I love to travel. I feel free every time I cross the boarder or get on to the plane! Not only that I am passionate about exploring new places and feel joy by always experiencing something new and exciting; it is something more than that for me! I have that strong sensation of freedom in my heart. And, gosh, I honour it so much!

I grew up in a communist country and spent more than half of my life living under communist regime. (Well, when I turn 50 in 2 years, it will be 50:50 for me). But for now, I can still say that a bigger portion of my life I lived  in totality.

Oh yes, it’s out! Now you know that English is not my first language, not even a second or third language. Actually, it was my fifth language I did learn. So, pleeeeease, tolerate my mistakes in my version of English and try to understand the way I put words together into sentences. It’s me, it’s the way I think and therefore the way I write.

Anyway, back to my travel passion. Living in a communist country meant that we were not allowed to travel almost anywhere. Our free travel zone without asking for special permission ad paying  with bribe money for that was limited by borders of  Eastern Germany, Poland and Hungary. Everything else was totally out of any imagination. And because of that I never thought or even dreamed about foreign countries and about life there. If someone would tell me at that time that I was living and working on the other part of the world I would think they were crazy.

And so I buried all my childhood dreams even before I could have thought about them.  I did not even know that deeply inside I had a soul of a traveller.

There were some hints for me though. I always loved geography at school. It served as an open window to the other world out there. And I learned quite a lot. Yes, theoretically. Without any possible use for the knowledge we had to memorise all capital cities of all countries in Africa, as an example. Oh well, quite tough at times when even countries were changing there. We had to know every large river in Asia all mountains in Americas and so on and so on.  Well, most importantly, we had to know all 15 countries in former Soviet Union, all the capital cities, numbers of citizens, rivers, mountains, agriculture produce, industry types; just about everything. And that was my travelling at those times. With my finger on the map; as my mum says.

And then, in 1989, everything changed! The “velvet revolution” and the end of the life in a cage. I immediately felt a strong urge to go and cross the border! Any border in fact!   I went to Austria the first month of freedom, crossing the first borders that got open for us; as almost everyone else did. It was quite funny! There were more people from my country in Vienna in those early days after the revolution than Austrians. That just showed how much people wanted that freedom to get out of the cage. And that is how it felt for me. Out of the cage, having my wings wide open and fly!

It’s  been 23 years since I crossed my home country borders as a free person for the first time and I enjoy travelling ever since. It feels so good!

And I know that it is part of what freedom means. Every time I cross the borders I remind myself how grateful I am that I am free to travel. I don’t take it for granted as I know what life is about if there is no freedom at all.

I still have my strong roots back at home. And yet, I have my free wings and I fly and travel wherever my heart takes me.

And so here is my mission and my message for everyone:

Be free!      Let your heart be free !     

Allow your heart to speak free, sing free, dance free, love free, live free!

With all my blessings, Karolina Maya
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